As a businesswoman for over a decade, I have seen and experienced first-hand the struggles that women have when pursuing their goals, especially when they don’t focus on the inner work of being an entrepreneur. I have the honour of working with entrepreneurs from all stages of new startups to executive women planning their exit strategy, to floral designers in residence at a top London Hotel. 

The Inner Job of Being

For many years hypnosis was seen as something for woo-woo hippy types or as a trick that was done on stage where people danced around like a chicken. However today, hypnosis has turned into a staple for many entrepreneurs and executives from everything to dealing with stress, building confidence to working through long-held limiting beliefs since childhood.

I focus on a mix of hypnotherapy and coaching to maximizing women’s effectiveness in business or careers and to help them overcome obstacles that are currently perceived in their way to achieving...

The pivot panic and are you doing this in your business?  Pivot can be substituted for any word. If you don’t like the word you can define it as a decision, evolution, changing my mind, whatever you want. What happens when you made a decision, pivoted or changed. There can be this panic that sets in. It can be your decision or it can be someone else’s decision.

My story

I had experienced this two months before my wedding. I was made redundant from my role. Didn’t see it coming. My boss at the time was even coming to the wedding. So this was something that was not at all on my radar.

So 2 months before my wedding day I managed to keep my head up, walk out of that office, drove for a while and cried my eyes out. I called my husband, fiancé at the time, who was on his stag-do and told him I was made redundant. He was supportive and said it was all going to be fine. (he was going to be home later anyway so it was all good). It was decided, 2 months...

We’re going to reconnect with what self-sabotage is as it relates to attachments or maybe when you've lost your mojo. Which is largely seeking out negative behaviour that causes you to be unhappy. I have spoken before about what the vessel of self-sabotage is. It’s tricksy and doesn’t go anywhere. Probably you have read the work vessel, you connected with it, it has connected with the word and it says ‘’oh we don’t have time to read this now, we’ll come back to it’’. That is classic self-sabotage vessel feeding behaviour. So if you think now that you don’t have time to read this post, HELL YES YOU HAVE!

How to Stop self-sabotaging 

STOP

This important step really is what it says on the tin, STOP.

Once you are aware that a decision is being driven by the vessel, then you need to stop to consider what is really going on.  Your vessel will try to keep going on autopilot, like a zombie heading to the fridge for food...

With my clients I have in the wedding industry, refunds were generally unheard of. Photographers, videographers, planners and even coaches and consultants. Refunds were generally not part of the business model. When someone booked there was generally no need for a refund, unless something happened of someone was unhappy.

Refund culture has changed

Covid changed the model. It increased cancellations where people in their complete right had options for refunds. People in these industries generally didn’t hold on to the money to refund because of their cash flow in the past 15-20 years, they never had to have such a substantial amount to refund clients.

In the wedding industry people needed a refund because they couldn’t move to a new date, since 2 years worth of weddings were happening in 1 year. Contractually there were many different reasons why the refund was valid and had to be upheld by the supplier. 

Also with coaches and clients who planned...

What I love about helping entrepreneurs and business owners define their legacy, is that at any moment you don’t know where a conversation might go. You see as far as I’m concerned every human is looking to define their legacy, even if they don’t use that particular language right now, and you might not.

In this context, we are talking about legacy future, once our souls are no longer on this planet. Some are under the impression that legacy is only to be found in material circumstances.  Some are carrying the presuppositions from family as to what a “legacy should” look like. 

Some are only focusing on the external shifts that need to happen to create a future legacy, rather than shifting their own internal experience. And for some, which is where we are focusing on today, they are struggling to define their future legacy, from their present mindset and legacy.

Perspective on legacy

Let me share with you a story from my upbringing as...

I’m having so many clients who feel like they lost their mojo. Do you feel like your drive is gone, you feel lethargic or flat? Do you have things to do on that never-ending to-do list but don’t have the drive to get them done? Why does mojo matter? Mojo is your drive, your enthusiasm, you drive to get stuff done and it does so consistently and persistently.

When we want to create legacies, a functional business and a high performing lifestyle, we need that motivation.

Reasons why you could have lost your mojo

Physical and Lifestyle factors

Have a check-in with yourself. Do you have an underlying health condition that impacts your motivation, do you have irregular breathing, do you have hormonal issues?  Are there lifestyle factors going that are impacting your mojo? Do you have a lack of sleep? We use sleep deprivation as a form of torture. It is strategically used for a negative purpose. It shows you how important sleep is. How much deep sleep are you getting,...

This blogpost is all about struggling. When we are looking to achieve dreams and goals, whether in business or in life, we all have those days when we are struggling. For me there was a day when the tipping point led to me yelling to the Universe “Really?! I’m struggling here!!”

I was packing my bags for a year of adventure, slipped and grabbed one of the metal rail bars. Almost watching in slow motion, my entire wardrobe fell apart like a Rube Goldberg machine and ALL of the clothes were on the floor and me in the middle of the heap.

If we look at the bigger picture of what happened here, the chain of events that day: My struggle started with an email, What to do in the eye of the struggle hurricane, what was really going on, how to decide to be instead and what to do next, post struggle meltdown.

My struggle started with an email

If I wind the clock back before I even started packing, I know that I went into that wardrobe in a mood. Let’s say not at my...

Goal setting and vision boarding is one of those techniques that you completely embrace for the upcoming periods. I love visions boards, I adore them but sometimes equally roll my eyes when I this practice.  In this blogpost we will cover why visions boards are great, the application of vision boards, how vision can be misleading and the missing ingredient.

Why visions boards are great

Reticular Activating system

In our brains, across the brainstem, is something we call the reticular activating system or RAS for short. Its main function is regulating arousal and sleep-wake transitions. However, the ascending projections of the RAS facilitate the conscious perception of sensory stimuli. Meaning that when it comes to vision boards, this translates to sifting criteria in your RAS, and the perceived need to see and even respond to sensory stimuli.

When we put something on our vision boards, it goes into the RAS which acts like a sift. A good example of this sifting process is...

When it comes to the topic of making money easily, I frequently encounter in my work that clients subconsciously do not want to do it. Your mind is the driver even when you don’t think when it’s in the driver’s seat. Why do we want to make it really hard for people to pay us? You think ‘’of course I want to make money easily Laura.’’

We can self-sabotage when it comes to making money easily.  We can make it really hard for people to pay us. So this blog post is about your subconscious mind with some conscious mind tips and tricks you can do to have some instant gratification now on implementing if you want to.

Reasons why you could be yourself holding back

Ancestral narratives

If you come from a long family line of hard workers, you might have an ancestral narrative that says that you need to be a hard worker too. Which turns into the belief that you need to work hard to earn money. And if you haven’t done enough hard work you...

If we haven’t met before, my name is Laura Payne-Stanley I’m a professional speaker for businesses and organisations, and I’ve been a TEDx Speaker too…… and I’m also an introvert.

Which makes me very qualified to talk about this topic of how to be visible online as an introvert, and well indeed how to be visible anywhere as an introvert.

When I talk about introversion, and being an introvert, people are often shocked.

But you do:

• TEDx talks
• Host your own events
• Network with industry leaders

And yes that is all true, but I am an introvert to my core.

How do I know?

Let me explain about introversion; two people go to an event, for the introvert, they experience it as the battery draining down the more they are around people.

For an extrovert, at the same event the battery is being charged when they are around people.

This is really just a metaphor for what is happening at a neurobiological level with introverts and extroverts, and literally...