Diving straight in today and talking about a topic that many find difficult: death.
You see in the western world death is scary. We can have trauma from the death of a loved one. And death is an uncontrollable event.
I’m not talking about the afterlife or next lives today, so any woo-woo avoiders; don’t worry.
What I am talking about is that if you want to live your best life, go to the end and a very specific part of the ending: your eulogy.
This is not a theory-based blog post today, this is a creative exercise that I’m going to encourage you to do. A note that this experience with clients can have a profound impact on people, with urgency and clarity.
So before we dive into the how, yes overachievers I’m going to make you wait a little longer, let’s talk about why.
We can live in the present day, using our past legacies to influence how we show up in the present-day version of ourselves. In society it can be about immediate gratification...
What I love about helping entrepreneurs and business owners define their legacy, is that at any moment you don’t know where a conversation might go.
You see, as far as I’m concerned, every human is looking to define their legacy even if they don’t use that particular language around it. And in this context, we are talking about legacy future, once our souls are no longer on this planet.
Some are under the impression that legacy is only to be found in material circumstances. Some are carrying the presuppositions from family as to what a legacy should look like. Some are only focusing on the external shifts that need to happen to create a future legacy rather than shifting their own internal experience.
And for some, which is where we are focusing today, they are struggling to define their future legacy from their present mindset and legacy.
Let me share with you a story from my upbringing as to how defining our future legacy from the...
It surprises me how many entrepreneurs don’t spend enough time thinking about those past legacy thoughts, feelings and mindset to move forward.
So what is legacy –
“Something that is a part of your history or that remains from an earlier time” as defined by the Cambridge Dictionary.
Legacy is so important to your success, which you might have gathered from the newly titled private weekly podcast called Wielding Legacy - because the key to unlocking your future lies in legacies.
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I know you are creating an impact in your industry. You are building a legacy for yourself and your family.
And it drives you and occupies your mind.
However, through my work as a trusted advisor to extraordinary entrepreneurs, I know you aren’t yet reaching your greatest...
Most entrepreneurs, elite athletes, business managers, execs and directors have their own coaches. The more formal consultants can focus on the tactical and strategic aspects of a clients work.
However, when elite poker players want help with the mental side of the game, they come to mindset ninja and trusted advisor Laura Payne-Stanley.
“Some people call me a coach. Some people call me a hypnotherapist and some people call me an expert in helping people to get out of their own way, and play the best games of their lives. But the elite players just call me.”
Feel more focused, more confident and stop the tilt.
So who is the woman, the secret weapon that has been compared to Wendy Rhoades from Billions for the poker market?
Laura, or LPS as her clients call her, says:
“I never set out to become the trusted advisor for poker players. I was working with top executives in film, casting directors and entrepreneurs, and a few of them used to play...
I wouldn't be the in-demand, high-level coach that I am if I didn't start by asking a question rather than answering this one. The question being how to scale your coaching business?
The question I want to ask you is why do you want to scale your coaching business?
Could you feel the impact of that question? And you do need to answer this before moving on. Because if you don’t know why you want to scale your coaching business, then 'how' is irrelevant.
It might seem like a strange question to ask, but I often have conversations with people who want to scale their coaching businesses to six figures, seven figures, and beyond.
From the hundreds of personal clients that I've had and 1000s of people that I've worked with through courses and from the stage, I've learnt that there is no one size fits all solution when it comes to scaling coaching practices.
This is how I work as a powerful coach. I ask the questions that you need to be asked, not answer the questions that you would...
Does this sound familiar to you.
You've recently gone on a date. And then in the first half an hour, you run through what both of you do for a living, which is of course a completely reasonable question.
You may try and dial down exactly that success that you currently have, so you do not seem too overwhelming. However, your date seems immediately suppressed and changes their energy as soon as you told them of your success.
Maybe a little too impressed in fact. You were getting the feeling that your success, that your money, that your status was more of an attraction than you were?
You may have had a feeling at an instinct or gut level. That you thought this person was more interested in your success than you if you had no success.
Of course, you're proud of your success. And you want to share it with the love of your life.
So how do you figure out if your date or the person you're currently interested in is interested in you, or if they are after your money?
You want a better quality of life, and you want to see results quickly. So why would a dentist need a life coach?
The simple answer is to not just love your practice again but also love your life again.
This involves everything from leading your team to doing the technical parts of dentistry that you have been trained to do, to make more money.
And for you to be a business owner who loves owning a dental practice.
Let me ask you...
While we may be coming to the end of pandemic and lockdown restrictions changing, many dentists have reported increased levels of anxiety, loneliness, panic, wanting to leave or just simply wondering; why are they a dentist in the first place?
Through my work with high-level entrepreneurs, including dentists, I've noticed several patterns:
Ever since I became an entrepreneur, over 10 years ago, I've been asked how I've continued to sell out consulting services.
I've had requests from other top consultancies, journalists, and leading corporate agencies. I'm going to share with you today how I broke the rules and became a sold consultant without even having a website at the time.
Whether you are brand new to consulting or an established consultant, it is essentially important to look at your mindset before ever trying to sell your services. If you have a block, limiting belief, or blind spot around selling your servicing to others, then address this before ever moving forward. I would include mindset work around selling your consultancy services and your pricing.
Are you charging what you are worth? Are you proud, honored, and comfortable to ask for your rates? Also checking that you are not frustrated with the rate that you are charging.
It's important to remember that if you aren't confident in...
What is sex in a long term relationship supposed to look like? How often are most people doing it?
Chances are if you are asking this question for either you or your partner, you’re probably encountering some issues in the bedroom department.
A universal truth is that most sex-education in the UK comes from the very limited sex-ed classes in school, behind the bike-shed conversations or from porn.
The first option of sexual education classes in school is not led from a standpoint of how to have great sex, but rather the mechanics of pregnancy.
Then option 2 and 3 of peer conversations and porn, feed into each other of setting unrealistic expectations around intimacy and sex. You may be reading this article as you found it on Google, after searching for advice because the frequency of the sex in your relationship has decreased, it just feels boring or you are on auto-pilot and doing it because of the fun associated.
Whether you have been an entrepreneur for a while, new to consultancy, or you're getting frustrated with how much you are earning; you will likely want to raise your rates at some point in time.
Here are the observations that I hear when clients are considering raising their rates, but blocks or limiting beliefs are holding them back.
Let me say this to you right now: these are all common blocks to have.
What is so wrong with wanting to charge more?
Many entrepreneurs do raise their rates for several commercial and lifestyle reasons.