When it comes to reading the words “perfectionist fantasies” my long experience has shown me that 2 responses normally happen.
The nod, that somewhere in your stomach you know that this is something for you. Or the “I’m curious” but it doesn’t land with you straight away.
So what are perfectionist fantasies?
Before we dive in here, let’s go back a stage to what is the problem with having perfectionist fantasies? As such a perfectionist fantasy is a longed-for illusion that can keep you stuck in a negative benefit frustration cycle.
You believe that it is only your illusory perfect self who can accomplish goals, once perfection has been achieved.
Or you believe that only the perfect launch, perfect messaging, perfect USP, perfect copy, perfect audience build, perfect audience identification, perfect need qualify.. will lead to the results that you crave.
I have also seen this emerge with corporate clients and leadership...
As a TEDx speaker in Southampton, Laura will be giving a talk on "What the art of seduction can teach us about customer service" as part of the theme "Human to human".
Watch her talk below:
Laura’s TEDx talk is inspired by the work that she does here at House of Seductology, as a 20-year marketing veteran and neuroscience-based coach.
House of Seductology embraces the power of neuroscience, marketing and the missing ingredient of seduction to create your legacy life.
Her TEDx talk wowed the audience with her usual blend of exciting and dynamic speaking style.
Laura Payne-Stanley, TEDx Speaker Southampton
Laura is a keynote conference speaker, marketing speaker, mindset speaker, TEDx speaker, and trusted advisor. She works internationally helping service-based...
More Impact, More Money with a Business Coach for NLP Coaches
NLP or Neuro-linguistic programming is a psychology approach to achieving behavioural change and mind mastery.
As an NLP Practitioner or NLP Master Practitioner welcome to this post and as a fellow NLP Master Coach, I know that you already love NLP and are now looking to grow your NLP Coaching Business.
And I get it...
NLP Coaching is a powerful skillset BUT now you need to grow that skill into a profitable business practice
There is a truth that I see time and time again with my clients, that not all NLP Coaches are great at the business of coaching.
Of course it makes sense, you may have done your NLP training and passed as a qualified NLP expert, but then didn’t know where to start on the business.
The areas to focus on when starting your NLP Coaching Practice include:
We are diving in deep today to talk about money dams and how they are stopping your money flow.
So what is a money dam?
It is a set of narratives or beliefs that is keeping money from flowing to you, AND also from keeping money with you if you don’t have the right barriers in place.
By understanding how you are actually blocking money, you can learn how to remove those dams, eliminate this self-destructive behaviour and rewire your brain with new thoughts and beliefs that will help heal your mind around creating wealth.
We are going to utilise the power of mental rehearsal to change your brain and body around money for the future.
Money dams and limiting beliefs on the unconscious level are where I find the jackpot with most private coaching clients. Most of us have these beliefs that we are aware of unconsciously, even if we might be aware consciously that something is amiss with...
It is very common for successful people to experience imposter syndrome and self-doubt, including the likes of Tina Fey or Sheryl Sandberg, who have publically claimed at times they felt like a fraud.
A review article in the International Journey of Behavioural Science puts the figure at an estimated 70% of people who experience the imposter syndrome phenomenon at some point in their lives.
Know that you are not alone.
So if we know that it is common, the feelings of Imposter Syndrome - know that it isn’t experiencing it that is the problem, it’s how we recognise and deal with it that has the biggest impact on our outcomes.
How true is this?
We’ve talked before about ‘stories’ and how we have them for time, money and success. Well, one of these life stories can be around our comparison of...
This should come with a potential trigger warning as we are going to be diving into whether you are creating your dream life, complete with legacy building business, or if you are creating a job under the guise of being an entrepreneur.
This is physically how you set up your business which has the underpinning of employee vs entrepreneur mindset.
Before we go any further I want to clarify that there is no good or bad here, not judgement that comes up, as long as you are fully aware and have consciously chosen how to run your business.
In my experience, you could be running an employee mindset whilst trying to scale your business which leads to frustration and burnout. If you are an entrepreneur struggling with burnout - I recommend reading & trying this self-hypnosis blog.
We are going to be looking through the lens of a mindset strategist and coach, to stop you if this is holding you back.
Let me ask you a couple of questions and scenarios, to see...
Back in 2003, the award-winning singer & actor Barbara Streisand was annoyed when a blurry photo of her Malibu home was published as part of the California Coastal Records Project.
Her annoyance manifested in her trying to suppress the photo. However, it had the opposite effect. It created a furore above and beyond what the original article had done. Meaning something that was obscure gained substantial attention.
When censorship backfires.
It has since been labelled as a social phenomenon by The Economist that occurs when we attempt to hide, remove or censor information. Sometimes it has the unintended consequence of amplifying it.
Let me share with you a story from one of my clients about how the Streisand Effect showed up in her life.
My client was residing in the UK, having been born in Europe, raised in her home country and coming to the UK when she was a teenager.
She had educated...
Diving straight in today and talking about a topic that many find difficult: death.
You see in the western world death is scary. We can have trauma from the death of a loved one. And death is an uncontrollable event.
I’m not talking about the afterlife or next lives today, so any woo-woo avoiders; don’t worry.
What I am talking about is that if you want to live your best life, go to the end and a very specific part of the ending: your eulogy.
This is not a theory-based blog post today, this is a creative exercise that I’m going to encourage you to do. A note that this experience with clients can have a profound impact on people, with urgency and clarity.
So before we dive into the how, yes overachievers I’m going to make you wait a little longer, let’s talk about why.
We can live in the present day, using our past legacies to influence how we show up in the present-day version of ourselves. In society it can be about immediate gratification...
What I love about helping entrepreneurs and business owners define their legacy, is that at any moment you don’t know where a conversation might go.
You see, as far as I’m concerned, every human is looking to define their legacy even if they don’t use that particular language around it. And in this context, we are talking about legacy future, once our souls are no longer on this planet.
Some are under the impression that legacy is only to be found in material circumstances. Some are carrying the presuppositions from family as to what a legacy should look like. Some are only focusing on the external shifts that need to happen to create a future legacy rather than shifting their own internal experience.
And for some, which is where we are focusing today, they are struggling to define their future legacy from their present mindset and legacy.
Let me share with you a story from my upbringing as to how defining our future legacy from the...
It surprises me how many entrepreneurs don’t spend enough time thinking about those past legacy thoughts, feelings and mindset to move forward.
So what is legacy –
“Something that is a part of your history or that remains from an earlier time” as defined by the Cambridge Dictionary.
Legacy is so important to your success, which you might have gathered from the newly titled private weekly podcast called Wielding Legacy - because the key to unlocking your future lies in legacies.
If you haven’t signed up for Wielding Legacy and there is space, you can do so here.
Wielding Legacy is an audio insight for high achievers, visionaries, empire builders and power couples.
I know you are creating an impact in your industry. You are building a legacy for yourself and your family.
And it drives you and occupies your mind.
However, through my work as a trusted advisor to extraordinary entrepreneurs, I know you aren’t yet reaching your greatest...