The pivot panic and are you doing this in your business?  Pivot can be substituted for any word. If you don’t like the word you can define it as a decision, evolution, changing my mind, whatever you want. What happens when you made a decision, pivoted or changed. There can be this panic that sets in. It can be your decision or it can be someone else’s decision.

My story

I had experienced this two months before my wedding. I was made redundant from my role. Didn’t see it coming. My boss at the time was even coming to the wedding. So this was something that was not at all on my radar.

So 2 months before my wedding day I managed to keep my head up, walk out of that office, drove for a while and cried my eyes out. I called my husband, fiancé at the time, who was on his stag-do and told him I was made redundant. He was supportive and said it was all going to be fine. (he was going to be home later anyway so it was all good). It was decided, 2 months...

With my clients I have in the wedding industry, refunds were generally unheard of. Photographers, videographers, planners and even coaches and consultants. Refunds were generally not part of the business model. When someone booked there was generally no need for a refund, unless something happened of someone was unhappy.

Refund culture has changed

Covid changed the model. It increased cancellations where people in their complete right had options for refunds. People in these industries generally didn’t hold on to the money to refund because of their cash flow in the past 15-20 years, they never had to have such a substantial amount to refund clients.

In the wedding industry people needed a refund because they couldn’t move to a new date, since 2 years worth of weddings were happening in 1 year. Contractually there were many different reasons why the refund was valid and had to be upheld by the supplier. 

Also with coaches and clients who planned...

When it comes to the topic of making money easily, I frequently encounter in my work that clients subconsciously do not want to do it. Your mind is the driver even when you don’t think when it’s in the driver’s seat. Why do we want to make it really hard for people to pay us? You think ‘’of course I want to make money easily Laura.’’

We can self-sabotage when it comes to making money easily.  We can make it really hard for people to pay us. So this blog post is about your subconscious mind with some conscious mind tips and tricks you can do to have some instant gratification now on implementing if you want to.

Reasons why you could be yourself holding back

Ancestral narratives

If you come from a long family line of hard workers, you might have an ancestral narrative that says that you need to be a hard worker too. Which turns into the belief that you need to work hard to earn money. And if you haven’t done enough hard work you...

If we haven’t met before, my name is Laura Payne-Stanley I’m a professional speaker for businesses and organisations, and I’ve been a TEDx Speaker too…… and I’m also an introvert.

Which makes me very qualified to talk about this topic of how to be visible online as an introvert, and well indeed how to be visible anywhere as an introvert.

When I talk about introversion, and being an introvert, people are often shocked.

But you do:

• TEDx talks
• Host your own events
• Network with industry leaders

And yes that is all true, but I am an introvert to my core.

How do I know?

Let me explain about introversion; two people go to an event, for the introvert, they experience it as the battery draining down the more they are around people.

For an extrovert, at the same event the battery is being charged when they are around people.

This is really just a metaphor for what is happening at a neurobiological level with introverts and extroverts, and literally...

The word legacy can be triggering for some and especially today in this post as we are discussing the topic of how to ‘Leave a Legacy’ as a childless person, especially when childless not by choice.

I know this can be a terribly difficult topic for those who are part of the community of childless not by choice and those who know people who are, and don't know what to say.

I have spoken about this before but to recap my own personal story about legacy and bloodline.

You haven’t missed here on the blog, on social or in newsletters; me talking about kids, as my husband and I, aka Mr P don’t have our family yet and it wasn’t by choice.

Ours has been a 13 year journey so far.  Without it becoming a 13 year soap opera, there have been many procedures, many avenues investigated.  There have been heartbeats seen and hearts broken when lost.  There are more stars in the sky during our 13 year journey. And the journey has been over...

Welcome to Finishing 2021 strong in business or crawling to the finish line.

Let’s dive in and ask the question – are you finishing the year strong or feeling like you are crawling to the finish line?

Or let’s do a quick reframe of the question – do you want to have an amazing 2022 or if you are reading this in the future, do you want to have an amazing next year?

I used to swim as a kid.  When I say swim, I trained 3 times a week and had my first ever coach.

I’ll never forget the wisdom that he taught me. You see I wasn’t and am not your typical swimmer.  I’m only just 5.5. now, and as a kid of about 13, I was 5 ft nothing.

I’m a curvy vixen and have been that way since I hit my teens.

So when I used to go to swimming competitions, when the swimmers are on the blocks, you look up and down to check out who else is competition.   And I didn’t look like competition.

And that’s ok. But I knew....

It’s time to talk about instant gratification and the impact this is having on those who are seeking to create a legacy.

You may or may not know this about me, but in case you don’t, I love an underdog and especially the underdog when it comes to property.

My husband Mr P and I, are on our second full property renovation which is now completed, the home is sold and we are looking for what is our next project.

When you are looking at a property to renovate, it’s as much about unburdening yourself of your ego and your limitations and seeing the beauty of the masterpiece property within.

And when looking at property to renovate I get nervous, because it isn’t about the sale or profit.  It’s about creating something that could have a lasting impact on future families who give the home a new soul and memories.

Because of this when I look at a property, fear is always with me.

Fear if can we create the vision that I see in my mind.

The fear of...

Laura is excited to be a TEDx speaker, part of the internationally renowned TED brand.  

As a TEDx speaker in Southampton, Laura will be giving a talk on "What the art of seduction can teach us about customer service" as part of the theme "Human to human". 

Watch her talk below:

Laura’s TEDx talk is inspired by the work that she does here at House of Seductology, as a 20-year marketing veteran and neuroscience-based coach. 

House of Seductology embraces the power of neuroscience, marketing and the missing ingredient of seduction to create your legacy life.  

Her TEDx talk wowed the audience with her usual blend of exciting and dynamic speaking style.  

Laura Payne-Stanley, TEDx Speaker Southampton 

Laura is a keynote conference speaker, marketing speaker, mindset speaker, TEDx speaker, and trusted advisor.  She works internationally helping service-based...

More Impact, More Money with a Business Coach for NLP Coaches 

NLP or Neuro-linguistic programming is a psychology approach to achieving behavioural change and mind mastery.   

As an NLP Practitioner or NLP Master Practitioner welcome to this post and as a fellow NLP Master Coach, I know that you already love NLP and are now looking to grow your NLP Coaching Business.  

And I get it...

NLP Coaching is a powerful skillset BUT now you need to grow that skill into a profitable business practice 

There is a truth that I see time and time again with my clients, that not all NLP Coaches are great at the business of coaching.  

Of course it makes sense, you may have done your NLP training and passed as a qualified NLP expert, but then didn’t know where to start on the business.  

The areas to focus on when starting your NLP Coaching Practice include: 

• ...

We are diving in deep today to talk about money dams and how they are stopping your money flow.  

So what is a money dam?  

It is a set of narratives or beliefs that is keeping money from flowing to you, AND also from keeping money with you if you don’t have the right barriers in place.  

By understanding how you are actually blocking money, you can learn how to remove those dams, eliminate this self-destructive behaviour and rewire your brain with new thoughts and beliefs that will help heal your mind around creating wealth.  

We are going to utilise the power of mental rehearsal to change your brain and body around money for the future.  

Money dams and limiting beliefs on the unconscious level are where I find the jackpot with most private coaching clients.  Most of us have these beliefs that we are aware of unconsciously, even if we might be aware consciously that something is amiss with...